* QotE (Hoda): "Four years of graduate school is like 10 years of regular time." Facts, bro.
* Is it the case that perverted thoughts are fine but it’s our actions that actually make us perverts? Perhaps. After all, we really aren't in control of our thoughts. They pop into—and unfortunately out of—existence seemingly out of our control. Maybe perverts don't have the necessary self control to keep their thoughts from morphing into action, and that's the problem.
* Hoda, I'm am ALSO excited about death! You're the only other person I've really heard share this same mindset. It's a fascination about what's on the other side. Literally NO ONE has ever "spent extensive time" there and reported back to the world of the living. Personally, I think our consciousness stops existing, which is a wild thought! However, think about this some more: do we not lose consciousness every time we go to sleep? Why then should death be any different? What are we afraid of after all?
* Your conversation reminded me of one of my favorite quotes ever, by Maya Angelou: "...people will forget the things that you said, people forget the things that you did, but people will never forget the way that you made me feel." I believe strongly in the wisdom of this quote. I claim that it's not the direct ramifications from our words and actions that have world-changing impact. Instead, it's the ripple effect: the reception of those words and actions—how people internalize and perceive them that really makes a lasting difference. So, although we can't control their perceptions, I believe the world would be a better place if more of us tried to tailor our words and actions—guided by our intuition—to have them make people feel GOOD! That's how we change the world.
* Hoda told a story in which she was a bitch to her friend and she regretted it. I admire that you, Hoda, would do things differently, assuming you could go back. I'd bet many of us have had similar experiences. I remember being sickened with myself as a teenager with how mean I was to my younger brother, Ryan.
* It's interesting to think about the social dynamics around gender vulnerability. Put more plainly: men are expected to NOT be so vulnerable. Fuck... speaking of vulnerability, while writing this sentence, I struck up conversation with the barista at Gator Kava Coffee Shop. He is only 29 y/o and has a rare—and in his case, terminal—form of cancer called Ewing's sarcoma for which he is receiving chemo. Really nice guy, this Gabriel... I'm starting to tear up, in fact... OK, I'm going to link an hilarious 10-minute comedy skit that mentions male vulnerability to remind us of the good times (it's such a good skit that I've watched it twice!) [1].
* It has dawned on me that you two are each other’s therapists lol. You talk through your own and each other's problems. how productive! It’s all wonderful to listen to.
* Among death, money, and sex, I vote: money > sex > death. Money is the hardest to discuss because so many Americans are so damn paranoid that someone is going to "taddle" on them for making so much or judge them for their earnings. Let people know to help close the wage gap—and for that matter, the gender wage gap too!
* QotE (Hoda): "Four years of graduate school is like 10 years of regular time." Facts, bro.
* Is it the case that perverted thoughts are fine but it’s our actions that actually make us perverts? Perhaps. After all, we really aren't in control of our thoughts. They pop into—and unfortunately out of—existence seemingly out of our control. Maybe perverts don't have the necessary self control to keep their thoughts from morphing into action, and that's the problem.
* Hoda, I'm am ALSO excited about death! You're the only other person I've really heard share this same mindset. It's a fascination about what's on the other side. Literally NO ONE has ever "spent extensive time" there and reported back to the world of the living. Personally, I think our consciousness stops existing, which is a wild thought! However, think about this some more: do we not lose consciousness every time we go to sleep? Why then should death be any different? What are we afraid of after all?
* Your conversation reminded me of one of my favorite quotes ever, by Maya Angelou: "...people will forget the things that you said, people forget the things that you did, but people will never forget the way that you made me feel." I believe strongly in the wisdom of this quote. I claim that it's not the direct ramifications from our words and actions that have world-changing impact. Instead, it's the ripple effect: the reception of those words and actions—how people internalize and perceive them that really makes a lasting difference. So, although we can't control their perceptions, I believe the world would be a better place if more of us tried to tailor our words and actions—guided by our intuition—to have them make people feel GOOD! That's how we change the world.
* Hoda told a story in which she was a bitch to her friend and she regretted it. I admire that you, Hoda, would do things differently, assuming you could go back. I'd bet many of us have had similar experiences. I remember being sickened with myself as a teenager with how mean I was to my younger brother, Ryan.
* It's interesting to think about the social dynamics around gender vulnerability. Put more plainly: men are expected to NOT be so vulnerable. Fuck... speaking of vulnerability, while writing this sentence, I struck up conversation with the barista at Gator Kava Coffee Shop. He is only 29 y/o and has a rare—and in his case, terminal—form of cancer called Ewing's sarcoma for which he is receiving chemo. Really nice guy, this Gabriel... I'm starting to tear up, in fact... OK, I'm going to link an hilarious 10-minute comedy skit that mentions male vulnerability to remind us of the good times (it's such a good skit that I've watched it twice!) [1].
* It has dawned on me that you two are each other’s therapists lol. You talk through your own and each other's problems. how productive! It’s all wonderful to listen to.
* Among death, money, and sex, I vote: money > sex > death. Money is the hardest to discuss because so many Americans are so damn paranoid that someone is going to "taddle" on them for making so much or judge them for their earnings. Let people know to help close the wage gap—and for that matter, the gender wage gap too!
[1] https://youtu.be/yDPxseEvthI?si=WsYp_M9FRtN937x1